The family is important to me, after all, you only get one so you have to try to make the most of them and look after them the best you can. My own family is separated by miles, with my mum living in one city, my brother in another and myself who furthest away from them all. It wasn’t always like this, we made the move to Norfolk when I was just a teenager, however, not long after I left school and had started college my family made the decision to move back to our hometown. As I had my college course and I had started dating Mr Boo I remained here, on my own.
Fast forward several years and my stepfather had become unwell, so I managed to persuade my mum and my stepfather to move back to Norfolk in order for me to help my mum with his care. My brother had just started university so remained ‘up north’. Sadly, not long after my mum and stepfather made the move my stepfather passed away quite suddenly and my mum was left on her own.
As the family finances had changed it was a struggle for my mum to continue to support my brother through university and whilst he had received some students loans it wasn’t enough to cover his boarding, books and food etc. He was struggling with money and as he was the first of my family to go to university I wanted to help him out as much as I could. I looked into getting guarantor loans as he was now working but had to pay for boarding etc upfront, this enabled him to pay for all the things he needed to and them pay off the balance each month from his wages.
A year after my stepfather’s death, my mum made the decision to move back to our hometown as she had many friends there who could offer her support. Plus it was difficult to remain here after all the plans she had made with my stepfather that sadly didn’t happen.
She is now settled there, my brother finished university paying off his loan we had taken out to help support him and he decided to stay and work in the city he attended university in. So that is how we ended up spread across the country, no matter how far apart we are, we are always there giving the family a helping hand.
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