I’m someone who is naturally excited whenever someone tells me that they are pregnant. My mind starts thinking about the grand adventure that they are embarking on and I congratulate them and express my excitement.
It seems however that not everyone reacts to pregnancy news in the same way. Since announcing that I am expecting baby no. 3 aka Piglet in early December I have had a whole host of reactions. Some of which I’d rather people had kept to themselves.
Take a look at some of the reactions I’ve experienced in recent weeks…
How not to react to pregnancy news
I didn’t know you were trying
Erm, never really sure how to respond to this one… sorry for not giving you in the heads up on my sex life but whether I was or wasn’t trying isn’t much concern of yours.
No, it was a much wanted and planned baby. Whilst not everyone chooses when they fall pregnant and it sometimes comes as a surprise I don’t think a comment like ‘happy accident’ is welcomed by anyone.
I thought you were just piling on the pounds
(Yes someone actually said this to my face and I’ve had a couple of variations of it too) Not really sure how to answer this one other than no I’m not fat, I’m pregnant.
I thought you said no more babies
We changed our minds and decided that we’d love a larger family, I didn’t realise that once we had said no more babies it was set in stone.
Why do you want another? you already have a boy and a girl
Whilst we are currently the 2.4 family with one of each why should that stop us wanting more children? I imagine this same person would change tact if I had 2 girls/boys with ‘oh I bet you’re hoping for a girl/boy this time round’.
But you’ve just got your life back
(Referring to Tigger about to start full-time school in September) We chose to leave 4 years between Roo and Tigger due to childcare costs and it is a similar reason this time around (albeit it took a little longer and Tigger will be 5 when Piglet arrives).
I’m not really sure why these people couldn’t have just said congratulations.