Be Happy Be You: The teenage Guide

January 9, 2020

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A positive and insightful guide for teenagers giving them the tools they need to build confidence, eliminate negative feelings and boost happiness in all areas of life. From the best-selling authors behind Create Your Own Happy.

Just as I thought that I was finally starting to understand the tween years, Roo continues to grow and became a fully-fledged teenager last year. Opening the door to a whole new set of hormones, issues and misunderstandings. Suddenly I am acutely aware of my own teenage years and just how much kinder I should have been to my own mum.

Navigating these years can be fraught at the best of times not only for us parents but for the teenager who is attempting to understand the world around them. From their hormones, friendships, happiness and the greater good. Thankfully to aid them through these trials and tribulations is a hands-on, thought-provoking book – Be Happy Be You: The Teenage Guide by Penny Alexander and Becky Goddard-Hill.

Be Happy Be You: The Teenage Guide

Time to open up the big red book and discover just how important happiness is in our lives. Reaffirming that happiness is a choice, rather than just solely down to chance. The book is split into three main sections, providing reading material, hints, tips and exercises for teens to complete depending on the area in which is proving difficult for them at that given time.

If you are thinking of gifting this book, may I suggest partnering it with a journal so that they are able to write, draw and mind-map their ideas from the exercises within this book.

The book features 40 different prompts/activities set across the three key sections. Each one including a quote from a range of authors, celebrities, philosophers and proverbs.

Happy YOu

Covering aspects of how teens need to focus on their own happiness. Discovering what the three different types of happiness are. As well as understanding that the only person that they will have by their side every day of their lives is themselves. Highlight just how important is it that their happiness has on all aspects of their lives.

Happy Relationships

When it comes to relationships with parents, siblings, the wider family and even friends, it can sometimes feel as though the world is out to get teens. Parents will nag about dirty washing, siblings will be… well siblings and take the opportunity to sense a weakness in their mood and wind them up. Friendships are difficult no matter what age you are but the teenage years can be fraught with complex emotions.

This section covers the dynamics that come with connecting with others and how to understand your own personality traits when it comes to being an introvert or an extrovert. Packed full of hints, tips and ideas on how to help improve relationships with others.

Happy World

Each and every one of us has a part to play in the world around us. This section focuses on the ways in which teens can help make the world a happier place. Giving them ideas on how they can make a stranger smile. Volunteer or join a team to provide ongoing support and encouragement to others.

What we thought

A parents point of view

I have to confess to reading through this book before giving to Roo and whilst this might be aimed at teenagers, there is so much that us as parents can take from the book too. From working on our own happiness and not getting bogged down with trivial things in life. To understanding how to interact with family members, friends and those we come into contact with across the course of a week. As well as how the simple things in life such as a smile to a stranger or a hello to a neighbour can brighten a day.

Thoughts from a teenager

The bright and colourful design of the book was inviting rather than just a ‘self-help’ book that they try to give you at school during SME lessons. The different sections each come with an introduction which is great for getting an idea on how it can help depending on the area I’m looking to focus on. Each of the activities provides a good mixture of reading material to help me understand what I need to focus on. Whilst the activities allow me to write, draw and mind-map to get the thoughts out of my head and on to paper. This is a book that I will pull off the bookshelf time and time again as I journey through my high school years and come across a new challenge.

Where can you buy the Be Happy Be You Book?

The Be Happy Be You: The Teenage Guide is available to buy from Amazon, Sainsbury’s and all other leading book retailers.

About the authors

Penny Alexander

Penny Alexander worked for 7 years in secondary schools teaching Drama, Film, and as a Head of Media Studies, after which she became an education consultant. When she had her children she became a fulltime blogger and brand journalist. In 2013, Penny won a MAD blog award for her work for Comic Relief.

Take a look at her Parent Shaped blog.

Becky Goddard-Hill

Becky Goddard-Hill is a former social worker and child development trainer. She also holds a postgraduate diploma in Psychotherapy and is a certified life coach. She now runs 6 blogs, all highly ranked within the UK, predominantly on creative family life, supportive communities and emotional wellbeing.

Take a look at her family-budgeting blog.

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Win a copy of Be Happy Be You

To provide the teenager in your life with some life guidance and helpful hints and tips, we are lucky enough to have a copy of Be Happy Be You: The Teenage Guide to giveaway.

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  • Susie Wilkinson January 9, 2020 at 11:21 am

    It’s hard, but try your best academically, and try not to worry about what your peers are doing, just worry about you!

  • Katrina Adams January 9, 2020 at 11:42 am

    It’s ok to not know what you want to do yet. I think there is so much pressure for teenagers to know what they want or will be doing for the next 20-30 years of their life. I know a lot of adults who don’t even know. Don’t feel forced into a direction if it isn’t you.

  • Chloe Davies January 9, 2020 at 3:10 pm

    It’s ok not to be okay

  • Jo m welsh January 9, 2020 at 6:46 pm

    Not to worry about the little things or what people say

  • Claire Rocks January 9, 2020 at 7:03 pm

    Your education and GCSE’s are very important, but they are not the be-all and end-all of your career prospects.

  • ashleigh allan January 9, 2020 at 7:11 pm

    Try not to worry everything will be fine!

  • Solange January 9, 2020 at 7:33 pm

    Don’t rush to grow up, don’t try to plan your entire life out, friends will come and go, cool is just a matter of opinion and saying no Is fine.

  • Julia Kerr January 9, 2020 at 10:34 pm

    Ignore the haters, live how you want to live and be happy with your decision, don’t give in to peer pressure

  • Natalie Burgess January 10, 2020 at 3:05 am

    Follow your own.path

  • Laura Pritchard January 10, 2020 at 7:21 pm

    I’d keep reminding them at this is only 6 years or so, that it always gets better.

  • Karen Barrett January 10, 2020 at 7:53 pm

    Be true to yourself. We bring our children up, we set them on the right path and I truly believe when they have to make choices they will choose wisely

  • Neha January 10, 2020 at 8:48 pm

    Growing up this day and age is so hard but happiness is key! Do what makes you happy and try and avoid peer pressure. I always try and remember to stress less and smile more because sometimes what you stress about is not worth it and doesn’t happen

  • Angela treadway January 11, 2020 at 1:18 am

    that life is hard but you have to find the beauty within it x

  • Karen Richards January 12, 2020 at 7:16 pm

    Work hard at your education but leave time for some fun as well. Don’t worry about the little things. It ok to say no. Don’t feel pressured into anything.

  • Ruth Harwood January 13, 2020 at 9:22 am

    Don’t regret anything, just make the best of what’s sent your way xx

  • Anosa January 14, 2020 at 10:49 am

    Whenever I spend time with the teenagers in my family, I immediately apologize to my parents, sounds like a great book.

  • Lorna @ Gin & Lemonade January 14, 2020 at 11:03 am

    I’d say: it gets better.

  • Evette Williams January 14, 2020 at 10:34 pm

    Don’t keep problems to yourself. A problem shared is a problem halved.

  • Kara Guppy January 15, 2020 at 5:26 pm

    I want to get this book for Isaac as he is just heading into his teenage years

  • Emma H January 16, 2020 at 11:20 am

    I always tell my children that it doesn’t matter if something doesn’t work out. We can talk about anything and everything and find a solution together.

  • Rich Tyler January 18, 2020 at 3:12 pm

    Make choices that feel right, not be pressured, save more!

  • Lou anderson January 21, 2020 at 9:10 pm

    Always be yourself. If something is bothering you, talk to someone. Never let yourself get so upset over other people’s words and actions

  • Sallyanne Rose January 22, 2020 at 3:23 pm

    noone is judging you as harshly as you are judging yourself – stop it!

  • jo liddement January 22, 2020 at 3:26 pm

    That school is important and to do their very best but not to stress about the subjects that they struggle with and to ask for help if they need it.

  • Cathryn Crawshaw January 23, 2020 at 10:05 pm

    Its ok to worry, but just talk about it

  • Rachel Craig January 24, 2020 at 1:31 am

    Try to acknowledge that we are similar, not the same. There is variety in life :- In nature, such as trees, flowers, animals. People who are genuinely fond memories of you, will love you for who you are, what you like, etc. Aim to have confidence in yourself. You are ok. It is only with time, opportunities, experience that we find out what we like, what makes us happy, what we are good at, etc. Confidence and self esteem come with time and experience. Quality of life is important, gradually learn what and whom you treasure .

  • Derek Wilson January 25, 2020 at 2:09 pm

    Listen to your instinct. Only you know what is right for you. x

  • Laura Green January 25, 2020 at 2:11 pm

    what a fantastic giveaway. I always think in a world where you can be anything, be kind. I also like that you dont have to apologise for how you are feeling. how you react to things is different but its okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed as much as it is to feel happy, excited and content!

  • zoe dennett January 25, 2020 at 7:44 pm

    would love this book for my teen, finding it so hard coping!

  • Troy Easton January 25, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    try to get the best out of your education and don’t let people put you down by looks because your going to get spot so don’y try to worry about it too much and try to do things that make you happy.

  • Darren Bourne January 25, 2020 at 8:44 pm

    Don’t take things too seriously.

  • Sarah Robinson January 26, 2020 at 7:49 am

    Not everyone is the same and thats ok. Keep talking and don’t let the little worries become big worries! Find things you enjoy doing and make time for those things… sports, crafts, cinema or reading!

  • Rachael Sexey January 26, 2020 at 8:26 am

    It’s ok to have opinions, thoughts and feelings and you need to express them and not bottle things up

  • Dawn Samples January 26, 2020 at 8:31 am

    Stop comparing yourself to others and love yourself x

  • Geri Gregg January 26, 2020 at 9:25 am

    Do what makes you happy, not what makes others happy. Try not to worry about the way you look and pain doesnt last forever

  • Susan B January 26, 2020 at 9:50 am

    Be kind to those who aren’t like you. The friendship is enriching to both you and them.

  • Maria Jane Knight January 26, 2020 at 1:06 pm

    Be 100% you, don’t change who you are to fit in with your peers and friends. You are perfect just the way you are!

  • Andrew Hindley January 26, 2020 at 4:26 pm

    Enjoy yourself while your still young

  • Eilean Fraoich January 26, 2020 at 4:55 pm

    To have the courage of your own convictions. Yiu might feel that you have to do what your friends are doing to fit in but you really dont. It honestly isnt that big a deal to them if you say no.

  • Tracy B January 26, 2020 at 5:25 pm

    Be yourself and be true to yourself, follow your own path, not someone else’s and try to be happy

  • laura stewart January 26, 2020 at 6:03 pm

    talk to your parents they know best

  • LYNDA DICKIE January 26, 2020 at 8:28 pm

    Don’t compare yourself to others especially those on internet. Love your body & mind, they are amazing 🙂 oh and enjoy the small wins!

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